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Dish Drying Dreams

Soapy detergent suds and a setting sun, to the backing track of the Smashing Pumpkins.  I hope everyone has a dishwasher. Here, at my place, unless I can convince the girls it is their turn, then I am it. The Dishwasher. Not Harvey Keitel The Cleaner. Nothing as cool as that for me. So I […]

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Bah Humbug

Great, here we go again! Enforced festivity anyone? December 1st. That’s right, for all you international readers, it has already begun for us here in the shaky isles. Christmas cheer, seasons greetings and all that. Time to roll out the decorations, debate the virtues of real or fake trees, start compiling lists of the naughty […]

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Creepy

What to do when your kids get spooky? Culture has been a bit of a theme of late. The 31st of October does nothing to alter that. Halloween is a tradition that might date all the way back to the Celts, but it is relatively new to New Zealand, courtesy of the the good ole […]

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Culture Shock

New Zealand is a great big little country.  I am too young to really feel like I was ever a part of a cultural identity. The imagery was still there, when I was a young lad. Black singlets and stubby shorts and floppy hats and keys left in the ignition and long hot summers and […]

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Be Careful

The two words above are something I do must best to avoid. That is to say, there are plenty of times I take care over my activities and actions. Thing is, I try to care less when my kids are involved. Pop down to any playground and you will hear those words ringing out, in a […]

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Play Time

 It’s not called Play Time any more. Is it still called Interval even? When I was a kid, way back when, the breaks given during the day, for morning and afternoon teas, was called Playtime. As we got older and advanced through schooling, our get of class and let off some steam moments became known […]

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Everybody Needs Somebody to Love

‘It’s 106 miles to Chicago, we got a full tank of gas, half a pack of cigarettes, it’s dark and we’re wearing sunglasses’ There is nothing more for me to do. My work here is done. Early this afternoon I sat down with me crew and flicked through Netflix in search of the impossible. In […]

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Ambiguity

How ambiguous, how off-hand, are you with your children?  We all do it. And not just when dealing with our children. We obfuscate, we employ delaying tactics, we brush off and disregard and we block. In using everyday, throw away language, the potential impact of which doesn’t even really cross our minds before the words […]

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Delegation

How do you prevent the ‘everyday’ from becoming mundane? How do you stop normal from being boring? It is difficult not to lose a bit of yourself when you are at home with kids. For me, it is partly environmental and a big part the climate. I turn to the outdoors for entertainment and as […]

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Acceptance

It is a hard enough job teaching the next generation what is considered acceptable, when we still don’t know what to accept in and of ourselves.  Sex and sexuality. Just by  banging two words like that down, you can garner a headline or two. Start questioning gender, gender roles, take a look at something kinky […]

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