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Hey, World, Leave Our Kids Alone

Wifey and I are pretty open with our kids. There is not much we keep from them, no subject we consider taboo and no questions we are not prepared to answer. Of course we moderate the things our kids have access to; what they view on television and the internet, what they hear when listening […]

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No Winners

Is that true, what they say..there can be no winners? On Saturday afternoon, the decision was made to cancel the scheduled round five Super Rugby match between the Crusaders and the Highlanders, set to be hosted at Forsythe Barr Stadium in Dunedin. Media outlets cited the police as saying there were no official fears held […]

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Innocence and Immunity

Was I naive? Was I blissfully unaware? Was I ignorant?  The question of immunity is a gnarly one in New Zealand at the moment. Measles has well and truly reared it’s ugly head as a problematic virus on our shores and re-ignited an immunisation debate, one which never really goes away. My wife is a […]

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Tears of Islam

Should that headline read tears for Islam? According to my wife it should. She sat in her favourite chair, our slumbering youngest nestled against her despite the persistent heat of a summer which refuses to give in, and wept. As far as is known, as I sit and write, forty nine people are confirmed dead. […]

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Redneck Dad

The following content may offend some readers. Be warned. I sit down on a sunny morning, surrounded by a slumbering household, as nothing more than master of this keyboard. An over-weight, balding, arthritic, white, middle class (I suppose) male. And somehow, I am supposed to be apologetic for that. Because I am white, older and […]

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Summer Soundtrack

In a world where identity is constantly under question, bent by questions around gender and labels, transformed by changes in acceptable norms, is there a place anymore for individuality? Everyone has the right to be different, has the right to be exactly who they see themselves as. It is no easy feat, being the the […]

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Cringe Factor

Have I fully of come of age? Because now, I am ‘That guy’.  We spent Christmas Eve and Christmas day with some of Claire’s family, down in the big smoke of Auckland. Twenty five or so loosely affiliated kin, together for a laugh and a smile and to share a feed. Stressful for those at […]

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Party Like It’s 1999

No, wait…Prince is dead.  So many have passed and gone over the last couple of years, the icons and cultural leaders and luminaries of a generation. Such is the way with the passing of time and all that. It isn’t for me to wax lyrical about the influence many of these people exuded and how […]

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A New New Year

Good bye to Hoki Hubby. As the new year rapidly approaches, Wifey and I split open box after never ending box, setting up our old life in a new environment. We are still in Northland, not all that far from the place we called home for the last couple of years. The Mighty Hokianga Harbour, […]

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Bad Apples. Bad Man.

Grace Millane. Saddened? Hell yes. Sickened? You know it. Shocked? Unfortunately, no.  I haven’t been on a date in a long time. Possibly because, as a forty something, hirsute, chubby, balding man with an empty wallet, I am far from desirable. More likely my lack of recent dating experience is due to my long-term, happy […]

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